I’ve learned an unconventional approach to fear from writer Elizabeth Gilbert that has been really powerful so I thought I’d share it with you.⠀

Fear inevitably creeps into every part of life. Fear that something bad will happen to our loved ones, fear of what others think, fear to be creative and try something new—even if it might fail miserably. And then, of course, there is the fear of missing out on our “best life” because we lived in fear and didn’t pursue it. Fear is at every turn.⠀

What if we approached our fear with kindness and curiosity? What if I treated my fear like a person for just minute and said this: “Oh, Fear. Thank you so much for trying to protect me. You’re right, this situation is very unpredictable and there is so much at stake. I hear you and I’m thankful that you work so hard to keep me safe. What is it that you are most afraid of? Help me understand. I know it seems like it would be safer to hide away and not move forward but that’s not how I’m going to play this one out.”⠀

Fear is really our brain’s response to a sense of threat and it is put there to keep us safe. What if we soothed the fearful part of ourselves like we would a concerned child? “I see you, Fear. I can appreciate what you’re worked up about because this life is risky.” Elizabeth Gilbert writes to Fear: “You are allowed to have a seat and a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote.”⠀

What do you think? Could it make a difference for you too?⠀